I'm not conventionally 'infertile.' I'm a habitual aborter, a multipe miscarrier, a four time failure. I'm the fringes because many people, including some OB's and RE's don't consider me infertile. In fact, I'm pretty damn fertile achieving pregnancy, but I can't maintain a pregnancy.
Resolve defines Infertility as two or more consecutive miscarriages. So while I have a definition to belong, I think it's sometimes easier to ignore those of us who don't fit well into the conventional idea of infertility. I immediately cancelled a cycle with my first RE when she quipped at the end of an appointment "We'll have you pregnant in no time!"
While getting pregnant isn't our problem, we still haven't been able to successfully build our family. We have found a hard time finding a place to connect and like many others often feel alone on this journey.
I know there are other fringe groups, but I can't speak for them. Still, I have a new motto:
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.